"Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before its entitled to the appellation". George Washington
Man have I learned that quote the hard way. And here's the thing; I'm SUPER happy I did. I used to be the kind of girl who loved every single person I met....I can find the good in pretty much every person right off the bat. The problem with that is not every person is super great....and I tend to find that out AFTER the fact; you know, after my heart has been trashed or after I have shared my life with someone and they turn around and backstab, gossip, etc. etc. etc. You get the picture. I dont know why but sadly, women tend to be worse than men about this. I am SUPER lucky to have some amazing, and we are talking seriously UH-MAZING friends in my life and I think that because of my past experiences, particularly in the last couple of years, I treasure then and cherish them all the more. The people I have in my life now are the people that will be in my life until the day I die. I can guarantee it. And the people I have in my life now I feel SUPER lucky and super blessed to have.
What's the moral of the story here? I dont know. Be guarded with who you share your life with. I know that I am super careful now and I'm glad I am. It doesnt mean I have shut down and think all people are bad because if that were the case I would have really been missing out on some really wonderful friendships. I definitely AM very cautious about who I share with and who I let in now; I think its called "wisdom" even though I really dont feel old enough to have that *wink*. Another moral of the story? Be thankful for the people who truly have your best interest in mind and who have your back. Be thankful for the people who you know will go to the mat for you and defend you when you aren't around. BE the person that will go to the mat and defend YOUR own friends too. And if you are lucky enough to have a few of those people in your life....THANK them. Tell them how much you love them and how much they mean to you.....seriously. They are one of God's most amazing gifts.
I struggle with how much to share here sometimes. I struggle because I worry about what I share being used against me or made fun of. But I also realize the blogs I read have depth. They go beyond the pretty pictures and the "look at what I shot today" and I think that I have alot of things to share that could help someone else. Here and there I will share parts of myself because there were times when I really could have benefited from someone else telling me they were in my shoes once. SOOOOO this is me keeping things real...and I will continue to do so. And I hope that you continue coming back to read and share because I know there are some amazing readers out there too. I hear from you secretly ;) but I at least hear from you! :)
and no post is complete without at least one picture so here it is:
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